Last night I watched the espy awards and the highlight of this sports awards show was when Caitlin Jenner, formerly know as Bruce Jenner, won the Arthur Ashe courage award.
Caitlyn said that the reason that she decided to revel her long kept secret to the world was to make a difference to others who are suffering as she had been for most of her life. The theme of her speech was acceptance. She believed people should be accepted and for who they are. She was particularly speaking about the trans genders community being accepted by others.
While I was watching her speech I became aware that acceptance was one of the things I wanted most from others. I realized that acceptance must be present for love to be fully experienced.
If someone I love tells me they love me, but they can’t accept me, I feel less loved. When Someone I love tells me that they love and accept me no matter what, I feel so loved that it’s unbelievable.
I really enjoyed the feeling of this revelation of how much love is connected to acceptance. Then I had another insight that made this moment even better.
I realized that before I can’t ask another person to love and accept me for who I am, I have to first love and accept me as I am.
When I truly choose to love and accept my life powerfully, life gives me power. When life gives me power, I feel powerful. Then I share my power with the world. There is no way I can be powerful in life when I don’t even like who I am.
Then another aspect of love and acceptance appeared to me. I began to think of all the people in my life that I don’t love and accept. Loving and accepting others is a part of feeling love and acceptance for myself. It must be given, in order to be received.
My call to action for the next week is this. I invite each and every one of you to join me in generating more love and acceptance. Here is how I will do this. I will make a list of 7 people that I want to have an amazing shift in my relationship with. This shift will be achieved by me rendering more love and acceptance. I will only listen to these people for their greatness. I will do this with one person every day over the next week.
I will also be more loving and accepting of myself. I will eliminate any and all conversations about myself that aren’t loving. I will stop beating up myself and stop making myself wrong.
I will also find an accountability buddy for this assignment. I will send my accountability buddy my list and have them hold me to it.
I challenge all who read this to do the same. Find the courage to make a change that will make a difference for yourself and the people you love.
Caitlyn Jenner did just that. She exhibited a tremendous amount of courage by coming out of the dark and sharing her true self with the world. Her courage has brought a massive amount of scrutiny on herself. It has also been the source of hope and inspiration for millions of others who don’t feel love and accepted.
I would like to acknowledge Caitlyn Jenner for being the change she wants to see in the world. For taking a stand to make a difference for others. This was one of the bravest acts I have ever seen.
She is now on her way to finally creating a life that she loves.
I encourage and invite you to be the change you want to see in the world.
For the past few days I have been feeling a sad, mostly due to a series of heart breaks. I tend to live with my heart on my sleeve, which makes it real easy for people to stick a knife in it This also means that I get my heart broken easily and I fall in love easily.
One of the things I like to do to escape that awful feeling of “Love Gone Wrong”, (a.k.a broken heart) is to watch a good movie, depending on how bad I feel a bad movie will do just as well.
My choice for this broken heart escape was “Frozen”, The smash kiddie from last year. I had heard a lot about it from countless sources. I even recently heard a minister at a church quote a lyric from the song “Let It Go”. Encouraging the parishioners to let go of the hurt, pain, anger, fear, or any negative energy form 2014. I figured that the movie had some lesson about “letting go” in it and I was definitely feeling some things I really wanted to let go.
The movie was really good. Those creators of at Disney are some damn geniuses. They can make a kids movie that touch, moves and inspires adults more than it does children. That’s because kids haven’t been through enough to get the full experience needed to truly understand the message in the movie.
To really get the power of letting something go. Two things have to happen, First you have to have had some negative life experience that you believe is so traumatic that you can never let it go. Secondly you have to let go of that negative life experience that you believe is so traumatic that you can never let it go.
Then you will know how good and free it feels to “Let It Go.” In the movie Elsa zapped Anna, her younger sister, while they were playing. Then Elsa was so upset at her self because of the accident, that she locked her self away from Anna. She couldn’t let it go. Years later Elsa was super bitter from all the years of isolation and guilt, that she ran away form her kingdom, the day of her coronation has queen.
Then when Anna, came to get her, Elsa hurt Anna again in a fit of anger, induced by all of the negative feelings that she has been carry around for over ten years. Go figure.
The only that can save Anna’s life is a true act of love. “Only a true act of love can thaw a frozen heart” is what the Troll Shaman told her. Anna believed that the true act of love had to be rendered to her. She was hoping for a prince to kiss her and save her. It turned out that the true act of love that saved her life was committed by her, not to her.
Watching this movie got me to thinking. I realized something that just might have changed my life. The reason that the world has been over run with greed, is because so many human beings believe that the highest acts of love should be done to them vs by them. When the truth is just the opposite. The highest acts of true love are always acts of service to others, not serving yourself.
What all this means to me is this: Love is in the giving, more than the receiving. Human beings experience love in direct proportion to the amount of love they give. The people who experience the least amount of love in the world are the people that give the least amount of love in the world. The people who bravely give a tremendous amount of love in the world, experience a tremendous amount of love in the world.
This is why an act of love can thaw a frozen heart, specifically when that act of love is committed by the person with the frozen heart. A frozen heart can’t feel, therefore it can’t love. Which means this: If your heart is frozen to any degree, for any reason. Half frozen hearts, quarter frozen hearts, crushed ice hearts or ice cubed hearts, what ever. You have to let that shit go, go out and love somebody, so you can feel better. Every second you hold on to your pain, slowly killing yourself, is a wasted moment of being in love. The love never went anywhere you just stopped feeling it, cause you got hurt a time or two. Let it go, go out and love someone, it always feels better to love somebody.