Tired of getting beat up by love?
Then let it go. Consider it a Love TKO.
Those are the words of Teddy Pendergrass. No truer words were ever spoken about relationships gone bad. “Let it Go”. Take the ass whopping and keep it moving. Don’t hang around and keep taking the beatings. If you do, then maybe your more broken the person committing the abuse.
No one would attempt to drive a car with three flat tires, because they know that such a car wouldn’t go anywhere. Yet many people try to drive a relationship that has three, something four flat tires.
A relationship that is totally broken down and going nowhere. When all the air and all of the love has been let out of the relationship, it will be flat lined, dead,then its time to scrap it.
There are some cases that might be worth saving and other that should be exited with the speed of a gazelle running for it’s life. Love isn’t supposed to be painful. People don’t have to hurt each other in the name of love, that is a choice that is consciously made.
Considering that there are so many ways to love someone in moments of stress and strife, resorting to abuse is the cowardly way. Abuse of any form is the lowest form of communication, it’ barbaric and in humane. Physical abuse is the worst of all.
If your being knocked out by love, that isn’t love, that’s something else and you are calling it love. Love don’t love nobody and love don’t hurt nobody.
Don’t blame love for your bad judgement.
What does your someday life look like? I imagine it looks amazing, at worst it looks better than your current life. Your someday life is the one you will get to someday, when conditions are better or different. Your someday life is the one you want, but don’t have the time and money for. Your someday life may seem like it only exist in some distant future, and that may be true. You can start working on it now.
Start working on it now and work on it everyday. Then before you know it, your someday life will be your everyday life.
Let me know what your someday life looks like, leave a comment starting with “Someday I want to….”. Then start working on that someday, today.
Here are a few of mine:
Someday I will be in excellent shape.
Someday I will have a successful business.
Someday I will write a book.
I’m working on all of these things now. My someday life is creeping up on me.
My first 21 Day New Habit Challenge
Today marks the 22nd day in a row that I have walked 5 miles a day. This was my first new habit challenge. I am proud of my self for sticking to my commitment, no matter what. I walked in the rain. I walked in the cold. I walked at night. I walked when I was tired. I even walked when I was sick.
No matter how I felt before my walk, I felt better afterwards, every time. This is part of how it becomes a new habit. Not only by doing it everyday, but also from the enjoyment and benefits I get from walking.
I now know my neighborhood pretty well. I have been in most of the coffee shops around here and met new friends. I used my walking time as a meditative period. I listened to hours and hours of personal development material.
When I first started the walking it was a challenge, 21 days later, I look forward to doing it. I enjoy it, I actually want to do it. I’m truly excited about walking 5 miles. This has inspired me to create more new habits.
Good habits are easy to develop if you have will and desire and little help from some friends. Once you get started, your attitude will shift and you will find the difficult to be easy.
How has your life been impacted by you not feeling understood? How many times have you gotten upset because you thought you weren’t understood? How many times have you had to explain yourself over and over again to someone because they didn’t seem to get your point of view? How many times have you gotten into arguments with someone simply because they didn’t understand your view?
This is my story, this is my song, and I know that I’m not alone. I can’t tell you how often I feel misunderstood. Feeling misunderstood has had a major impact on my life.
I enjoy the company of those who get me I don’t want to spend much time with those who make wrong all the time because they disagree. People who agree with me are way more fun to be with.
This was how it was for me for so long. Then one day I realized two things that changed my feeling of being understood.
First I realized that I was letting what others thought about me determine my reaction. When what I should be doing is responding to them based upon who I say I am.
When I’m responding to others based upon my commitment to life vs. reacting to what they think, I always come out better.
Secondly I realized that it’s better to first understand others, than it is to try and have them get you. There is a quote that goes “Seek to understand, before being understood”.
When I make a gracious effort to understand the wants and needs of others before mine, things tend to work out better. I experience a lot more friction when I’m trying to get my point across than when I’m trying to get their point.Now I seldom feel misunderstood and on the few occasions where I do, it really isn’t a big deal.
Be the change you want to see in the world.If you want others to understand you, you must first understand them.
Focus, focus, focus. Keep your eyes on the prize. Make a list everyday of what you want to accomplish and complete that list, no matter what. Success shall soon be yours.
You can look the whole world over and never find anyone more deserving of love than yourself.
Happiness and true freedom come only when we assume full responsibility for who and what we are.
So often it isn’t that love is missing in our lives as much as we missed it when it was there.