Tired of getting beat up by love?
Then let it go. Consider it a Love TKO.
Those are the words of Teddy Pendergrass. No truer words were ever spoken about relationships gone bad. “Let it Go”. Take the ass whopping and keep it moving. Don’t hang around and keep taking the beatings. If you do, then maybe your more broken the person committing the abuse.
No one would attempt to drive a car with three flat tires, because they know that such a car wouldn’t go anywhere. Yet many people try to drive a relationship that has three, something four flat tires.
A relationship that is totally broken down and going nowhere. When all the air and all of the love has been let out of the relationship, it will be flat lined, dead,then its time to scrap it.
There are some cases that might be worth saving and other that should be exited with the speed of a gazelle running for it’s life. Love isn’t supposed to be painful. People don’t have to hurt each other in the name of love, that is a choice that is consciously made.
Considering that there are so many ways to love someone in moments of stress and strife, resorting to abuse is the cowardly way. Abuse of any form is the lowest form of communication, it’ barbaric and in humane. Physical abuse is the worst of all.
If your being knocked out by love, that isn’t love, that’s something else and you are calling it love. Love don’t love nobody and love don’t hurt nobody.
Don’t blame love for your bad judgement.
Money can’t fix a broken heart. It seem like most people in America believe the money, above all other things, will make the biggest difference in their lives.The “American Dream” is based upon having more money than one needs.
Yes, Money can patch up holes in your house. Money can also easily fix a hole in your car, but no amount of money can fix a hole in your heart.
Yes, Money does bring comfort and a false sense of security, but money doesn’t create happiness and peace.
Money isn’t real.
If all money in the world disappeared today, only humans would be impacted. The rest of the living creatures of the world would be just fine.This is because humans have been conditioned to believe that money is needed to survive.
When you’re laid up in the hospital, your bank account won’t come visit you.Nurture your relationship, love people, not money.
At what point do you jump off of a sinking ship? There is an old custom of the captain going down with the ship. I actually get it. It speaks to the captains commitment to his crew and the ship.
As a leader I believe I should “Take one for the team”. There is also a line where my self preservation genes kick in and I start swimming for the shore.
I have noticed that many people stay on sinking ships until the water is up to their nose. Most of the time these people aren’t the captain of these ships, yet they remain until their demise.
What’s more alarming is that these individuals are extremely apathetic towards their situation. Not only are they choosing to stay on the sinking ship, they most often deny that the ship is sinking, or even worse, just don’t give a damn.
I see this phenomena in romantic relationships all the time. Some people will stay in abusive, unhealthy, dysfunctional, or unhappy relationships and do little to nothing to make them better.
The just sit there like Leonardo Dicaprio in the final scene of the Titanic, accepting there downfall as if they have no option.
As long as one can breath and think, there are options. I’m here to tell you that the pain and fear of jumping ship from an atrocious relationship, is always less than the pain and suffering of staying and drowning to death.
If your relationship is sinking, do all that you can to repair it before you jump ship.
Swim to shore, live to love another day.
What does your someday life look like? I imagine it looks amazing, at worst it looks better than your current life. Your someday life is the one you will get to someday, when conditions are better or different. Your someday life is the one you want, but don’t have the time and money for. Your someday life may seem like it only exist in some distant future, and that may be true. You can start working on it now.
Start working on it now and work on it everyday. Then before you know it, your someday life will be your everyday life.
Let me know what your someday life looks like, leave a comment starting with “Someday I want to….”. Then start working on that someday, today.
Here are a few of mine:
Someday I will be in excellent shape.
Someday I will have a successful business.
Someday I will write a book.
I’m working on all of these things now. My someday life is creeping up on me.
My first 21 Day New Habit Challenge
Today marks the 22nd day in a row that I have walked 5 miles a day. This was my first new habit challenge. I am proud of my self for sticking to my commitment, no matter what. I walked in the rain. I walked in the cold. I walked at night. I walked when I was tired. I even walked when I was sick.
No matter how I felt before my walk, I felt better afterwards, every time. This is part of how it becomes a new habit. Not only by doing it everyday, but also from the enjoyment and benefits I get from walking.
I now know my neighborhood pretty well. I have been in most of the coffee shops around here and met new friends. I used my walking time as a meditative period. I listened to hours and hours of personal development material.
When I first started the walking it was a challenge, 21 days later, I look forward to doing it. I enjoy it, I actually want to do it. I’m truly excited about walking 5 miles. This has inspired me to create more new habits.
Good habits are easy to develop if you have will and desire and little help from some friends. Once you get started, your attitude will shift and you will find the difficult to be easy.
Focus, focus, focus. Keep your eyes on the prize. Make a list everyday of what you want to accomplish and complete that list, no matter what. Success shall soon be yours.
You can look the whole world over and never find anyone more deserving of love than yourself.
Happiness and true freedom come only when we assume full responsibility for who and what we are.