Tired of getting beat up by love?
Then let it go. Consider it a Love TKO.
Those are the words of Teddy Pendergrass. No truer words were ever spoken about relationships gone bad. “Let it Go”. Take the ass whopping and keep it moving. Don’t hang around and keep taking the beatings. If you do, then maybe your more broken the person committing the abuse.
No one would attempt to drive a car with three flat tires, because they know that such a car wouldn’t go anywhere. Yet many people try to drive a relationship that has three, something four flat tires.
A relationship that is totally broken down and going nowhere. When all the air and all of the love has been let out of the relationship, it will be flat lined, dead,then its time to scrap it.
There are some cases that might be worth saving and other that should be exited with the speed of a gazelle running for it’s life. Love isn’t supposed to be painful. People don’t have to hurt each other in the name of love, that is a choice that is consciously made.
Considering that there are so many ways to love someone in moments of stress and strife, resorting to abuse is the cowardly way. Abuse of any form is the lowest form of communication, it’ barbaric and in humane. Physical abuse is the worst of all.
If your being knocked out by love, that isn’t love, that’s something else and you are calling it love. Love don’t love nobody and love don’t hurt nobody.
Don’t blame love for your bad judgement.
For the past few days I have been feeling a sad, mostly due to a series of heart breaks. I tend to live with my heart on my sleeve, which makes it real easy for people to stick a knife in it This also means that I get my heart broken easily and I fall in love easily.
One of the things I like to do to escape that awful feeling of “Love Gone Wrong”, (a.k.a broken heart) is to watch a good movie, depending on how bad I feel a bad movie will do just as well.
My choice for this broken heart escape was “Frozen”, The smash kiddie from last year. I had heard a lot about it from countless sources. I even recently heard a minister at a church quote a lyric from the song “Let It Go”. Encouraging the parishioners to let go of the hurt, pain, anger, fear, or any negative energy form 2014. I figured that the movie had some lesson about “letting go” in it and I was definitely feeling some things I really wanted to let go.
The movie was really good. Those creators of at Disney are some damn geniuses. They can make a kids movie that touch, moves and inspires adults more than it does children. That’s because kids haven’t been through enough to get the full experience needed to truly understand the message in the movie.
To really get the power of letting something go. Two things have to happen, First you have to have had some negative life experience that you believe is so traumatic that you can never let it go. Secondly you have to let go of that negative life experience that you believe is so traumatic that you can never let it go.
Then you will know how good and free it feels to “Let It Go.” In the movie Elsa zapped Anna, her younger sister, while they were playing. Then Elsa was so upset at her self because of the accident, that she locked her self away from Anna. She couldn’t let it go. Years later Elsa was super bitter from all the years of isolation and guilt, that she ran away form her kingdom, the day of her coronation has queen.
Then when Anna, came to get her, Elsa hurt Anna again in a fit of anger, induced by all of the negative feelings that she has been carry around for over ten years. Go figure.
The only that can save Anna’s life is a true act of love. “Only a true act of love can thaw a frozen heart” is what the Troll Shaman told her. Anna believed that the true act of love had to be rendered to her. She was hoping for a prince to kiss her and save her. It turned out that the true act of love that saved her life was committed by her, not to her.
Watching this movie got me to thinking. I realized something that just might have changed my life. The reason that the world has been over run with greed, is because so many human beings believe that the highest acts of love should be done to them vs by them. When the truth is just the opposite. The highest acts of true love are always acts of service to others, not serving yourself.
What all this means to me is this: Love is in the giving, more than the receiving. Human beings experience love in direct proportion to the amount of love they give. The people who experience the least amount of love in the world are the people that give the least amount of love in the world. The people who bravely give a tremendous amount of love in the world, experience a tremendous amount of love in the world.
This is why an act of love can thaw a frozen heart, specifically when that act of love is committed by the person with the frozen heart. A frozen heart can’t feel, therefore it can’t love. Which means this: If your heart is frozen to any degree, for any reason. Half frozen hearts, quarter frozen hearts, crushed ice hearts or ice cubed hearts, what ever. You have to let that shit go, go out and love somebody, so you can feel better. Every second you hold on to your pain, slowly killing yourself, is a wasted moment of being in love. The love never went anywhere you just stopped feeling it, cause you got hurt a time or two. Let it go, go out and love someone, it always feels better to love somebody.