Are You Tired Of Getting Beat Up By Love?

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Tired of getting beat up by love?

Then let it go. Consider it a Love TKO.

Those are the words of Teddy Pendergrass. No truer words were ever spoken about relationships gone bad. “Let it Go”. Take the ass whopping and keep it moving. Don’t hang around and keep taking the beatings. If you do, then maybe your more broken the person committing the abuse.

No one would attempt to drive a car with three flat tires, because they know that such a car wouldn’t go anywhere. Yet many people try to drive a relationship that has three, something four flat tires.

A relationship that is totally broken down and going nowhere. When all the air and all of the love has been let out of the relationship, it will be flat lined, dead,then its time to scrap it.

There are some cases that might be worth saving and other that should be exited with the speed of a gazelle running for it’s life. Love isn’t supposed to be painful. People don’t have to hurt each other in the name of love, that is a choice that is consciously made.

Considering that there are so many ways to love someone in moments of stress and strife, resorting to abuse is the cowardly way. Abuse of any form is the lowest form of communication, it’ barbaric and in humane. Physical abuse is the worst of all.

If your being knocked out by love, that isn’t love, that’s something else and you are calling it love. Love don’t love nobody and love don’t hurt nobody.

Don’t blame love for your bad judgement.

You can’t turn a moth into a butterfly

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We all make bad choices; some of us make more than others.
Bad choices make great stories and yield life lessons.
 
What’s worst than making a lousy choice? Staying in it longer than necessary.
 
If you get into a dissatisfactory relationship, how long you stay in it is more impactful to your life than the fact that you got in it in the first place.
 
The next time you make a poor choice, learn your lesson and move on.
 
Don’t waste time trying to turn a moth into a butterfly.

Swim to shore, live to love another day

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At what point do you jump off of a sinking ship? There is an old custom of the captain going down with the ship. I actually get it. It speaks to the captains commitment to his crew and the ship.

As a leader I believe I should “Take one for the team”. There is also a line where my self preservation genes kick in and I start swimming for the shore.

I have noticed that many people stay on sinking ships until the water is up to their nose. Most of the time these people aren’t the captain of these ships, yet they remain until their demise.

What’s more alarming is that these individuals are extremely apathetic towards their situation. Not only are they choosing to stay on the sinking ship, they most often deny that the ship is sinking, or even worse, just don’t give a damn.

I see this phenomena in romantic relationships all the time. Some people will stay in abusive, unhealthy, dysfunctional, or unhappy relationships and do little to nothing to make them better.

The just sit there like Leonardo Dicaprio in the final scene of the Titanic, accepting there downfall as if they have no option.

As long as one can breath and think, there are options. I’m here to tell you that the pain and fear of jumping ship from an atrocious relationship, is always less than the pain and suffering of staying and drowning to death.

If your relationship is sinking, do all that you can to repair it before you jump ship.

Swim to shore, live to love another day.

 

 

My Body is calling.

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This Is A Call To Action. Join the Nation, Change Your Life and Change Your Nation. I can no longer resist the call of my higher self, requesting that I relate my body and soul as the source of my power and communication to the universe.

In order for me to experience the highest levels of communication and connection, I must be clean & clear of all fear. I must be a constant source of love and forgiveness, starting with myself.

Feeding my body poison everyday isn’t very loving to myself. Denying my body the opportunity to participate in physical activities that promote health and well being, isn’t loving myself. Standing on the sidelines of life watching others move and shake the world, that’s not loving the world.

It all sounds like some fear to me. Fear of responsibility, fear of being vulnerable and fear of change. These fears are keeping me trapped in my small life, which is aligned with my lower self. My fears are keeping me form having my someday life. I’m done with that.

I’m ready to divorce my lower self, our relationship hasn’t been working for me. I’m ready to be all that God intended me to be. I’m ready let my light shine.

I’m letting go. I surrender to the call.
See you on the other side.

I watched the PlantPure Nation documentary last night and I was touched, moved and inspired. So I am challenging myself to attempt to start a plant based diet today. The first phase is for me to eliminate red meat. Then I will remove the chicken and fish. The next thing to go will be the three “White Poisons” Flour, Sugar and Salt.

I also intend to do some blood work before and again in 6 months to see the measurable difference. I will accomplish my health transition gradually and I will achieve my goal.

Now who’s coming with me?

Watch this video and join there group and join one of the health groups that I’m a member. I recommend that you don’t think about it and just act.
Any Questions, Ask.
Link Below.
http://www.plantpurenation.com

Why I walk 5 miles a day.

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My first 21 Day New Habit Challenge

 

Today marks the 22nd day in a row that I have walked 5 miles a day. This was my first new habit challenge. I am proud of my self for sticking to my commitment, no matter what. I walked in the rain. I walked in the cold. I walked at night. I walked when I was tired. I even walked when I was sick.

No matter how I felt before my walk, I felt better afterwards, every time. This is part of how it becomes a new habit. Not only by doing it everyday, but also from the enjoyment and benefits I get from walking.

I now know my neighborhood pretty well. I have been in most of the coffee shops around here and met new friends. I used my walking time as a meditative period. I listened to hours and hours of personal development material.

When I first started the walking it was a challenge, 21 days later, I look forward to doing it. I enjoy it, I actually want to do it. I’m truly excited about walking 5 miles. This has inspired me to create more new habits.

Good habits are easy to develop if you have will and desire and little help from some friends. Once you get started, your attitude will shift and you will find the difficult to be easy.

You Don’t Understand Me.

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How has your life been impacted by you not feeling understood? How many times have you gotten upset because you thought you weren’t understood? How many times have you had to explain yourself over and over again to someone because they didn’t seem to get your point of view? How many times have you gotten into arguments with someone simply because they didn’t understand your view?

This is my story, this is my song, and I know that I’m not alone. I can’t tell you how often I feel misunderstood. Feeling misunderstood has had a major impact on my life.

I enjoy the company of those who get me I don’t want to spend much time with those who make wrong all the time because they disagree. People who agree with me are way more fun to be with.

This was how it was for me for so long. Then one day I realized two things that changed my feeling of being understood.

First I realized that I was letting what others thought about me determine my reaction. When what I should be doing is responding to them based upon who I say I am.

When I’m responding to others based upon my commitment to life vs. reacting to what they think, I always come out better.

Secondly I realized that it’s better to first understand others, than it is to try and have them get you. There is a quote that goes “Seek to understand, before being understood”.

When I make a gracious effort to understand the wants and needs of others before mine, things tend to work out better. I experience a lot more friction when I’m trying to get my point across than when I’m trying to get their point.Now I seldom feel misunderstood and on the few occasions where I do, it really isn’t a big deal.

Be the change you want to see in the world.If you want others to understand you, you must first understand them.

 

Happiness is an Inside Job

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Happiness is an Inside Job.

I just got off the phone with a friend named April, she has ben going through a tough time with her fiancé. For the past six month April has had to share her man with another woman. The side chic is taking over and it is driving her bat Sh*t Crazy.

For April, this is hell; she has become obsessed with this situation. She can’t think of anything else right now. She is so afraid that she is about to loose everything, her home, her job, her man and her mind. April’s Fiancé is now in a full-blown relationship with the side chic.

He says that he wants to keep them both. April’s default response is “Ain’t nobody got time for that”, but she stays and tries to compromise. She just can’t do it. April is unable the watch the man she had planned on marring, be all lovey dovey with the side chic. The Breakdown begins.

Last night April and me talked and she was full swing in “F*%K It” mode about her relationship. Saying things like “He don’t give a fuck about Me.” and “I really don’t want to go home.” She was pissed off and she was planning her escape. I can relate to what she is going through, I have had my heart broken some many times that I stopped keeping track. I advised her to jump off the Titanic, “Your relationship is sinking, JUMP”.

Then I called her today to check on her, and make sure she made it through the night without altercation”. Well when she answered the phone I was startled by how good she sounded. Her voice had a high tone of joy and laughter that I hadn’t heard from her in quite some time. She was giggly and upbeat. This was not the person that I was on the phone with the night before.

Before I could ask her why she was so elated, she told me. Her man had shifted his attention and love back to her, for the first time in months. She told me that he asked her to spend the day with him and he told how she was pretty. Then they topped it off with some make up sex.

She told me that she was so happy right now and it was apparent. This got me to thinking, which is why I’m writing this post. I wanted to know what actually took place inside of her mind that caused such a massive shift so fast. How could she go from being upset and done with her fiancé to being happy in love like a first time teenager?

The shift that made the difference came from with her. The few words and common action from her fiancé was just a trigger. they did not make the difference. April chose to view her circumstances differently and that made the difference.

Here’s what became clear to me at the moment that I observed this, it’s not what happens to you, it’s what you do with it.

What do you make it mean and how do you react. You can give a persons behavior a good or bad rating. You can over react or under react.

April, at any time could have chosen to leave or stay. She and she only is in control of her happiness. She just doesn’t know it. She believes that she has to wait for others to act for her to determine how she feels.

Stop waiting for the world to change, you be the change in the world you want to see. You be the change in your relationship. You be the change on your job. You be the change I your family. You be the change in your community.

If you want to be happy, then be happy. Say this to your self-everyday

“If it’s to be it’s up to me”