At what point do you jump off of a sinking ship? There is an old custom of the captain going down with the ship. I actually get it. It speaks to the captains commitment to his crew and the ship.
As a leader I believe I should “Take one for the team”. There is also a line where my self preservation genes kick in and I start swimming for the shore.
I have noticed that many people stay on sinking ships until the water is up to their nose. Most of the time these people aren’t the captain of these ships, yet they remain until their demise.
What’s more alarming is that these individuals are extremely apathetic towards their situation. Not only are they choosing to stay on the sinking ship, they most often deny that the ship is sinking, or even worse, just don’t give a damn.
I see this phenomena in romantic relationships all the time. Some people will stay in abusive, unhealthy, dysfunctional, or unhappy relationships and do little to nothing to make them better.
The just sit there like Leonardo Dicaprio in the final scene of the Titanic, accepting there downfall as if they have no option.
As long as one can breath and think, there are options. I’m here to tell you that the pain and fear of jumping ship from an atrocious relationship, is always less than the pain and suffering of staying and drowning to death.
If your relationship is sinking, do all that you can to repair it before you jump ship.
Swim to shore, live to love another day.
My first 21 Day New Habit Challenge
Today marks the 22nd day in a row that I have walked 5 miles a day. This was my first new habit challenge. I am proud of my self for sticking to my commitment, no matter what. I walked in the rain. I walked in the cold. I walked at night. I walked when I was tired. I even walked when I was sick.
No matter how I felt before my walk, I felt better afterwards, every time. This is part of how it becomes a new habit. Not only by doing it everyday, but also from the enjoyment and benefits I get from walking.
I now know my neighborhood pretty well. I have been in most of the coffee shops around here and met new friends. I used my walking time as a meditative period. I listened to hours and hours of personal development material.
When I first started the walking it was a challenge, 21 days later, I look forward to doing it. I enjoy it, I actually want to do it. I’m truly excited about walking 5 miles. This has inspired me to create more new habits.
Good habits are easy to develop if you have will and desire and little help from some friends. Once you get started, your attitude will shift and you will find the difficult to be easy.
You can look the whole world over and never find anyone more deserving of love than yourself.
Don’t try to force anything. Let life be a deep let-go. See God opening millions of flowers every day with out forcing the buds.
Growth is a detox process, as our weakest, darkest places are sucked up to the surface in order to be released…often, it is not a change in partners but rather a change in perception that delivers us to the love we seek.
“Wealth is an abundance of both money and meaning.” Hugh Kimura
There is no greater wealth than peace of mind. (Rhonda)
“The first wealth is health.” Ralph Waldo Emerson