Tired of getting beat up by love?
Then let it go. Consider it a Love TKO.
Those are the words of Teddy Pendergrass. No truer words were ever spoken about relationships gone bad. “Let it Go”. Take the ass whopping and keep it moving. Don’t hang around and keep taking the beatings. If you do, then maybe your more broken the person committing the abuse.
No one would attempt to drive a car with three flat tires, because they know that such a car wouldn’t go anywhere. Yet many people try to drive a relationship that has three, something four flat tires.
A relationship that is totally broken down and going nowhere. When all the air and all of the love has been let out of the relationship, it will be flat lined, dead,then its time to scrap it.
There are some cases that might be worth saving and other that should be exited with the speed of a gazelle running for it’s life. Love isn’t supposed to be painful. People don’t have to hurt each other in the name of love, that is a choice that is consciously made.
Considering that there are so many ways to love someone in moments of stress and strife, resorting to abuse is the cowardly way. Abuse of any form is the lowest form of communication, it’ barbaric and in humane. Physical abuse is the worst of all.
If your being knocked out by love, that isn’t love, that’s something else and you are calling it love. Love don’t love nobody and love don’t hurt nobody.
Don’t blame love for your bad judgement.
Kill Your Past Before It Kills You
What would happen if you drove you car and spent most of that time looking in the rear view mirror?
First of all it would take you a long time to get where your going. You wouldn’t be able to move very fast either. Secondly you there is a high probability that you would constantly have accidents. And lastly when your looking in the rear view mirror, your checking to see what’s going on behind you, trying to make sure there isn’t anything to worry about, which causes you to worry and be fearful.
It’s clear to see that navigating your car form the rear view mirror would not yield the optimal results of driving. It’s safe to say that the same thing applies to life. Navigating your life based on your past wont yield your optimal results.
Therefore you must Kill your past before it kills you.
There is absolutely nothing you can do to change the past..
Live in the moment, now is all there is.
Is your past killing your or simply slowing you down?
At what point do you jump off of a sinking ship? There is an old custom of the captain going down with the ship. I actually get it. It speaks to the captains commitment to his crew and the ship.
As a leader I believe I should “Take one for the team”. There is also a line where my self preservation genes kick in and I start swimming for the shore.
I have noticed that many people stay on sinking ships until the water is up to their nose. Most of the time these people aren’t the captain of these ships, yet they remain until their demise.
What’s more alarming is that these individuals are extremely apathetic towards their situation. Not only are they choosing to stay on the sinking ship, they most often deny that the ship is sinking, or even worse, just don’t give a damn.
I see this phenomena in romantic relationships all the time. Some people will stay in abusive, unhealthy, dysfunctional, or unhappy relationships and do little to nothing to make them better.
The just sit there like Leonardo Dicaprio in the final scene of the Titanic, accepting there downfall as if they have no option.
As long as one can breath and think, there are options. I’m here to tell you that the pain and fear of jumping ship from an atrocious relationship, is always less than the pain and suffering of staying and drowning to death.
If your relationship is sinking, do all that you can to repair it before you jump ship.
Swim to shore, live to love another day.
What does your someday life look like? I imagine it looks amazing, at worst it looks better than your current life. Your someday life is the one you will get to someday, when conditions are better or different. Your someday life is the one you want, but don’t have the time and money for. Your someday life may seem like it only exist in some distant future, and that may be true. You can start working on it now.
Start working on it now and work on it everyday. Then before you know it, your someday life will be your everyday life.
Let me know what your someday life looks like, leave a comment starting with “Someday I want to….”. Then start working on that someday, today.
Here are a few of mine:
Someday I will be in excellent shape.
Someday I will have a successful business.
Someday I will write a book.
I’m working on all of these things now. My someday life is creeping up on me.
How has your life been impacted by you not feeling understood? How many times have you gotten upset because you thought you weren’t understood? How many times have you had to explain yourself over and over again to someone because they didn’t seem to get your point of view? How many times have you gotten into arguments with someone simply because they didn’t understand your view?
This is my story, this is my song, and I know that I’m not alone. I can’t tell you how often I feel misunderstood. Feeling misunderstood has had a major impact on my life.
I enjoy the company of those who get me I don’t want to spend much time with those who make wrong all the time because they disagree. People who agree with me are way more fun to be with.
This was how it was for me for so long. Then one day I realized two things that changed my feeling of being understood.
First I realized that I was letting what others thought about me determine my reaction. When what I should be doing is responding to them based upon who I say I am.
When I’m responding to others based upon my commitment to life vs. reacting to what they think, I always come out better.
Secondly I realized that it’s better to first understand others, than it is to try and have them get you. There is a quote that goes “Seek to understand, before being understood”.
When I make a gracious effort to understand the wants and needs of others before mine, things tend to work out better. I experience a lot more friction when I’m trying to get my point across than when I’m trying to get their point.Now I seldom feel misunderstood and on the few occasions where I do, it really isn’t a big deal.
Be the change you want to see in the world.If you want others to understand you, you must first understand them.