How has your life been impacted by you not feeling understood? How many times have you gotten upset because you thought you weren’t understood? How many times have you had to explain yourself over and over again to someone because they didn’t seem to get your point of view? How many times have you gotten into arguments with someone simply because they didn’t understand your view?
This is my story, this is my song, and I know that I’m not alone. I can’t tell you how often I feel misunderstood. Feeling misunderstood has had a major impact on my life.
I enjoy the company of those who get me I don’t want to spend much time with those who make wrong all the time because they disagree. People who agree with me are way more fun to be with.
This was how it was for me for so long. Then one day I realized two things that changed my feeling of being understood.
First I realized that I was letting what others thought about me determine my reaction. When what I should be doing is responding to them based upon who I say I am.
When I’m responding to others based upon my commitment to life vs. reacting to what they think, I always come out better.
Secondly I realized that it’s better to first understand others, than it is to try and have them get you. There is a quote that goes “Seek to understand, before being understood”.
When I make a gracious effort to understand the wants and needs of others before mine, things tend to work out better. I experience a lot more friction when I’m trying to get my point across than when I’m trying to get their point.Now I seldom feel misunderstood and on the few occasions where I do, it really isn’t a big deal.
Be the change you want to see in the world.If you want others to understand you, you must first understand them.